He had no interest in bettering himself, his life, or sticking to the promises he'd originally made.I’ll assume if you are reading this, you already know or suspect that you really do want to save your marriage. I don’t know your situation and can’t make any guarantees, but I hope that something here is helpful. Maybe you realize that moving from one household to two Whatever the reason, it is my belief it CAN be done. (I highly recommend both.) Please don’t take my advice as a replacement for your own. Within this article, I will tell you how I happened to do this (although some of it was just really dumb luck, but I finally wised up and hopefully, it doesn’t need to take you that long, nor do you need to be as as I was.) However, I do need to state, that before we go further, that I’m not a therapist or an expert.However, as time went on, I realized that this man that I loved had no interest in holding up his end of the bargain.Before I left Paris in July, I told him we needed to take some time to work on ourselves, separate from each other.Being that I was from New York City and he was from Paris, we'd start out with a year in NYC, then a year in Paris after we got married, and the visa situation would be easier to handle.
I wasn't back in the States for more than a couple of weeks when he decided to call and tell me that he didn't want to change.I was going about my merry way thinking everything was , it was wasn’t.After I got over my shock and anger, I was floored, not only at his behavior, which came out of left field, but how sharp a contrast this was to how we used to be. All we needed was for him to just change his mind with this ridiculous break up."I had no illusions that I was in love, but it was eye-opening to be with someone that made me feel good about myself, made me laugh and respected me for who I was—not who he wanted me to be," she says."The affair helped me find myself and proved to me that I could live a life independent of my husband. Twenty-five years later, I'm married to a wonderful man.